Am I Normal?

Everyone is unique, but what is considered ‘normal’ when it comes to penis size, shape and colour? Sexologist, Gabrielle Morrisey, answers five of the most commonly asked penis questions.

What’s the average penis like?

There are only two types of penises: ‘grow-ers’ and ‘show-ers’. Grow-ers are those men with short flaccid penises. As their penises become erect, the shaft grows much longer. The difference between their penis size soft and hard can be several inches. Show-ers are those whose penises tend to hang long, even when flaccid. When their penises go from soft to hard, their length may hardly change. The penis simply fills with blood and becomes stiff, rather than longer. So you can’t judge penis size based on the soft/flaccid state of it. As far as the size of the erect penis, the general range for “average” is thought to be between 5-6.5 inches (12.7cm-16.5cm), but research results vary so this range is a guideline only. Average circumference of an erect penis is between 4-5 inches (10-12.5 cms), again research results vary.

What do girls think about penis size?

Girls don’t spend nearly the amount of time or attention thinking about penis size as guys do. Girls are far more concerned with other relationship issues, and being treated well outside the bedroom, as well as in it. If she feels satisfied, pleasured, respected, cared for, desired and adored then she really doesn’t care about the size of her partners penis. Contrary to some men’s fears, girls don’t really discuss the size of men’s penises very much at all.

What if I have a bend in my penis?

A penis with a bend is very common. The penis, contrary to popular myth is not a ‘bone’ or a muscle. It is the erectile tissue (made of collagen fibres) that fills with blood to get harder, can take on variation in whether it bends to the left, or right, or angles upwards or straight out. Age can also determine the angle of erection too.

What does a normal penis look like?

“Normal” in the real world is a range. There is no magic number, shape or size. Just as everyone has a unique face, everyone’s genitalia is unique too – and that goes for men and woman alike. No one looks the same, or has the identical shape and size. The opening at the tip of the penis, the urethra, can also vary in size and location. Skin colour isn’t always uniform across a penis, and there can be varying shades of colour on the shaft and head of the penis. Some penises can have protruding veins, while others not at all. Men can be circumcised, or uncircumcised, pierced or unpierced. Some men even get decorative penile tattoos. Every penis is wonderfully different!

How can I get around a small penis size?

The size or shape of your penis isn’t the most important factor in pleasuring a female partner. The vagina is a ‘potential space’. This means it stretches to accommodate what is placed inside it (or comes out of it – like a baby). It will snugly wrap around whatever size you are. What guys fail to understand is that it’s the motion of intercourse that stimulates her physically, not the size of your penis. Also, when a female is close to orgasm her vagina will contract, making it squeeze down on the penis inside it. At this point it really doesn’t matter what size you are.

Some facts you may not know about the human Vagina:

  • The pleasurable nerves are only located on the outer one third of the vagina – any deeper and she’s not feeling it anyway.
  • The average vagina is only three to four inches deep.
  • Average vaginal width is a little over an inch for most women
  • Many women report that men whose penises are too big actually feel uncomfortable during intercourse, even painful.
  • Most of the nerve endings that cause females pleasure – eight thousand of them to be precise – are not even inside the vagina. They’re in the clitoris, which is where you want to be spending more of your attention.
  • The G-Spot is only about 2-3″ inches inside the vagina on the top (below the bladder) so size has nothing to do with stimulating it. Besides, research shows only a small percentage of women can have vaginal orgasms, but all women can have earth-shattering clitoral orgasms.


A 1996 study: “The shape and dimensions of the human vagina as seen in three-dimensional vinyl polysiloxane casts”. Gynecologic and obstetric investigation 42 (3): 178–182, used vinyl polysiloxane castings taken from the vaginas of 39 Caucasian women, found the following ranges of dimensions:

  • lengths (measured using rods): 6.86 to 14.81 cm (2.7 to 5.83 inches);
  • widths: 4.8 to 6.3 cm (1.88 to 2.48 inches);
  • vaginal entrance diameters: 2.39 to 6.45 cm (0.94 to 2.53 inches)


Research published in 2006 (“Baseline dimensions of the human vagina”. Human Reproduction 21 (6): 1618–1622.), gave the following mean dimensions, based on MRI scans of 28 women:

  • Mean length from cervix to vaginal openings: 6.27 cm (2.46″).
  • Mean width:
    at the proximal vagina: 3.25 cm (1.27″);
    at the pelvic diaphragm: 2.78 cm (1.09″);
    at the vaginal entrance: 2.62 cm (1.03″)


Sexually pleasuring a female is not as hard as you think, and penis size doesn’t have to be a factor (unless you are in the extreme size ranges).  There are many sexual techniques that can be used, other than intercourse, that can give a female an intense pleasurable experience.